Saturday, January 26, 2013

Quick takes!

Remember when I said no news is good news?  Well, overall that is still the case, and you have not heard from me in a while!  Dominic has definitely been taking up my time, but in a good way!  He recently had his PICC line taken out!!!  That was a huge deal as there was a lot of time taken up with taking care of it.  Now that the line is out, I need to make trips in twice a week for blood draws to check his hemoglobin and sodium levels.  We also are starting up his therapies three times a week, so to say things are busy with him is an understatement, but overall, Dominic is doing wonderfully!  We are still trying to work through weaning him from his narcotic (oxycodone) and have noticed that we have to take it very slowly or we all pay the price with a lot of crying and irritability.  We are also still praying that the fungal meningitus goes away, so we hope the medications we have been using do their job.  On the flip side, I am definitely seeing more of the boy we had before surgery.  As the medication amount goes down I see more of his real personality and his ability to connect with us is stronger.  It means the world to have him connect with me and actually want to be with me.  Before, I think he associated me with all of the hospital pain. 

I continue to be haunted by thoughts of the sweet people I met in the hospital, the people who never leave or who spend a great deal of their life in the hospital.  I do not think I will ever forget them, they have changed my perspective forever, or at least, I hope they have.  I am not sure what I will do with that experience, the experience of meeting this whole group of people who live a very different existence than the vast majority; they humbled me, they made me grateful, they made me sad and oddly enough, they made me hopeful.  To say that they have made a place in the deepest part of my heart would be truthful, and I think my future interactions and perspective will always come from that place.  Some people thought it was interesting when I mentioned that I would be going back to my "princess" life again :)  It is true though, I realize that what I experienced with Dominic in the hospital was just brushing the top of the capacity for humans to suffer.  It is actually a beautiful mystery that is rooted in love, out of suffering comes great love.  Anyways, I could forever bore you with my thoughts on this subject, so on to talking about the incredible people who work with the suffering in the hospital. 

I would be remiss if I never wrote this, please read this part because this man deserves a THANK YOU beyond what we will ever be able to give him.  How can we thank the man who gave our son a face? How can we thank him for giving us hope when all hope was lost?  When everyone else only saw a problem in my son's face, he saw a solution.  When everyone else gave no hope, he gave us a personal phone call to tell us, "It's going to be alright, I have seen this before, I can work with this!".  After Dominic was born, this Doctor continued to keep up with his progress always sending e-mails making sure all was well.  This doctor made it possible for us to come out for a second opinion and then he made it possible with insurance for Dominic's surgery to be covered.  This doctor got a team of experts together that planned and practiced the surgery weeks beforehand so that his actual surgery ended up being only 7 1/2 hours instead of the expected 12-14.  This doctor believed in Dominic's life as being valuable and worth all that went into saving him.  This doctor continues to want to be in Dominic's life, even if insurance will not cover more surgeries out in Boston, he wants to see his care through to the end of his growing years, so much so that he sent home a robot with us to keep up on his care.   This doctor truly cares...  THANK YOU SO MUCH DR. MEARA!!!!  I say this with tears, I cannot thank you enough!

                                        Dr. Meara and Dominic (he takes true joy in what he does)
Dr. Meara and Dr. Proctor the neurosurgeon (equally wonderful!)
Dr. Meara visiting Dominic via the "robot" (Mark is holding Dominic)


He can see Dominic's sutures and his general behavior, making sure all is well.

                                         He also can move around the home, next time I will pick up the wash off of the living room floor before Dr. Meara comes to visit!
Dr. Meara signing consent forms the morning of surgery.

Boston Children's was an incredible place to be and we are so grateful we had Dominic's surgery there for many reasons.  Mark and I were always included as part of the team and what we said was always respected and put into consideration!  The expertise of each department was evident which was so important seeing as we were dealing with some serious issues with Dominic.   

That doesn't even begin to touch upon the people of Boston!!  The people of Boston
: the community, the outreach, the support was amazing.  Again, I feel as if we will never be able to adequately thank everyone in Boston for what they have done for our whole family.  Here is an example of what kind of people we found in Boston.  One of the women from St. Bernadette's parish wrote this:

Please join us on Friday, February 8th at 7pm for mass at St. Bernadette Parish in Northbough, MA (route 20).

This is a wonderful opportunity to come together as a community to celebrate mass in thanksgiving for Dominic Pio Gundrum's successful surgery at Children's Hospital.  We will continue to pray for his healing.  Finally, this will be an opportunity for all of the families who helped to make the Gundrum's stay in Massachusetts run smoothly.  Though networking and email we rallied for the Gundrum family and helped them through a challenging month.  

Refreshments and coffee will be served in the parish center following mass.

We hope you can join us!

The other parish that was so instrumental with helping and supporting us, Mary Immaculate of Lourdes, will be, I believe, coming together with this parish at this Mass.  Can you believe this?  I only wish we could go!  The people from these two churches supported us so much, we are so grateful to you!

And now to leave you with a couple of photos of Dominic around the home: (click on the pictures to see them larger, you can really see how he is healing!)















And one more very special picture sent in by Claudia 11 yrs.  She drew this picture of Dominic sleeping and an angel watching over him.  We love it and will have it framed!!!  Thank you!!


21 comments:

  1. Thank you for the post. So glad to see and read about his progress. We will continue to pray for his healing and for the meningitis to be gone as well as his withdrawal process. What a gift Dr. Meara is to your family and to many others. Such competent care from that hospital and such a bonus to be respected as part of the team as his parents.
    Beautiful baby - you can really see the progress in his healing from the last set of pictures!

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  2. Wow! Thank you so much for posting this. We are so grateful for all of your blessings! Ava sends kisses to Dominic, as do Shaun and I. xo

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  3. I'm very glad to see these pictures, and to see that for the most part, things are going well! That robot is just too cool! There is just too much to comment on--the Mass, the little pictures that people drew and Dr.Meira....God is good! Please continue to update when you can!

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  4. I love those smiles of his and I'm so glad to hear about his continuing healing. Thanks for taking the time to write this post.

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  5. It has been such a blessing praying for Dominic and your family...thank you SO much for sharing his story with us. It is nice to see the miracle that is happening right before our eyes. I love to see the smiles...and your Dr Meara is a true hero. Pax Christi!

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  6. You know, with these pictures he looks like the same Dominic as before the surgery even though he looks different. Does that make sense? I guess his little personality is shining through.

    Did you carry that robot home on the plane? I'm interested in more of the particulars of that robot.

    That drawing is cute.

    Great to see your update. I'll continue to pray for his healing and drug withdrawal.

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    1. I know what you mean about it looking like the same Dominic, I am glad you see it too! They shipped the robot out to our home, thank goodness, I had enough to carry on the plane. It is a little strange having it in the corner. Thank you for continuing to pray, he is not completely out of the woods yet, so I appreciate them! Thank you for being his faithful friend!

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  7. OH, so happy to see some pictures and hear how things are going! We all love Dominic and the kids always ask if there are any updates! We pray every day still for Dominic and all of you!

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  8. I think your experience of meeting other suffering families in the hospital will bear fruit. You don't know how right now, and you don't have to figure it out now. But I think sometime in the future, this experience will be used for good.

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  9. That second paragraph…. wow. That is one of the most profound things I have ever read. And God bless that good doctor!

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  10. Great post - thank you for sharing details about the amazing doctor who continues to care for Dominic. We will add him to our prayers. Dominic is in our daily prayers and we are so happy to see that he is healing so well. :-)

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  11. Hurrah! Oh, I just love the pictures of Dominic's smile!

    Keep having lots and lots of patience Mary. He'll come "fully" back soon. Those meds will be out of his system someday and you don't know God has up his sleeve to restore his soul. Our NICU baby started getting her full smile back after we adopted a cat. She was the "therapy" animal we didn't know we needed.

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    1. I see that potential in our 1 year old Golden Retriever Bella, I can't wait for the two of them to get acquainted! Dominic is very interested in Bella, but Bella is a little intimidated by Dominic, she is great with children though, thank goodness! I call her our "therapy dog". Thank you for your continued encouragement, I am trying to be patient with his crabbiness, hoping that he will fully come back to us someday!

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  12. So many people today are negative towards doctors, and it did my heart good to hear you sing their praises! I am so glad Dominic is thriving at home (who wouldn't in your loving large family) and loved the update :)

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  13. Who wouldn't want to keep updated on Dominic?

    I'm waiting for one of your children to put a hat on the robot, or for the robot to chase the dog.

    Yay for Dr. Meara! And yay for the neurosurgeon!

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  14. Hello Mary,
    I read your article in The Globe this morning and was touched. I work for VGo - the company that makes the robot that you're using to stay in touch with Dr. Meara at Children's. We are all so happy here to know that VGo is helping Dominic's recovery process go smoothly! Thank you for sharing these wonderful images.
    Many blessing to you and yours,
    Ang Paris
    jugglingactmama.blogspot.com
    vgocom.com

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  15. Your son is beautiful...and Dr. Meara id a God send...he did my son Kolby's cleft lio and palate repair...i love that man! I hope Domininc is doing well thank you for posting your story.

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    1. I am so glad to "meet" someone who has had experience with this doctor, he is wonderful! I hope Kolby is doing well with everything!

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  16. We love Dr. Meara and Dr. Proctor. I have Pfeiffer Syndrome Type II and have had all my surgeries done at BCH. They are amazing!

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  17. I found your blog through an article I saw posted on Facebook. Praise God for all he has done! What a blessing to see that big smile on Dominic's sweet little face.

    We spent March 2012 at Nationwide Childrens Hospital in Columbus, OH when our second daughter was born with a critical heart valve defect. I know exactly what you mean about how that experience has such a profound effect on you and how you see other people after that.

    I am usually rather shy and backward, but felt compelled to reach out to other people I met and had many good heart to heart conversations with people I met in passing.

    The knowledge that all of these people were carrying such heavy burdens and that we were standing in an epicenter of human suffering...it made compassion grow in me in a way I had never experienced before. It is too easy to remove yourself from other people when you are busy at your "everyday" life. I think God used that experience to help me get a glimpse of how he sees all people. It helped to break my heart for the things that break his heart and caused me to make extra effort to be kind to others. It kept me from getting too caught up in myself and my problems. It helped me to feel his hand of blessing even in the midst of the storm. I took a lot of that home with me and hope to never forget what I learned there.

    My prayers are with you and your family and with Dominic as he continues to heal. God bless you all!

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  18. God bless you and your beautiful family! I just discovered Dominic's story and it gives me so much hope that there are still amazing, loving families out there who don't let a prenatal diagnosis result in the end of a beautiful, precious and miraculous life. Thank you for letting us look into this very special window and share your joy!

    Also, I love that you have a son named Augustine. I have an August, myself.

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